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Brian Bender

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Our thoughts are with you today

Sent by All at the MND Association

Motor Neurone Disease Association

With happy memories of Brian and family in Brussels.

Motor Neurone Disease Association

Brian was a much valued friend and colleague, and I deeply lament his passing.

Motor Neurone Disease Association

Remembering a generous and warm colleague over many years. Deepest sympathy to Penny and the family at this Christmas time.

Motor Neurone Disease Association

In memory of Brian Bender, in the hope that this awful disease will one day be eliminated.

Motor Neurone Disease Association

Pool Reinsurance (Nuclear) Ltd

Motor Neurone Disease Association

It was a great privilege to have worked with Sir Brian at Defra. He was engaging whilst incisive and he entrusted me with the responsibility of managing senior appointments, a subject he held dear under his Chairmanship. On his leaving Defra he was proud to tell me that we had made a great impact and I will always be grateful to him for sharing the challenge with me.

Lois Tilden (formerly Briggs)

Motor Neurone Disease Association

Such a sad loss, and such a cruel disease.

Joanna Donaldson

Motor Neurone Disease Association

Brian will be long remembered as a great public servant and person. We will miss him at Test Matches.

Graeme Henderson

Motor Neurone Disease Association

A calming presence, a reliable friend, he is much missed

Motor Neurone Disease Association

Brian was a wonderful colleague and a supportive boss who taught me a great deal. Very sad to lose him so young.

Motor Neurone Disease Association

In memory of Brian a kind, caring and well respected man.

Peter and Jane Beales

Motor Neurone Disease Association

In memory of 50 years of friendship, love and laughter. Grateful to have known Brian and Penny.

Graham and Angela Webster-Gardiner

Motor Neurone Disease Association

In memory of a lovely man and exceptional friend, with all our family's love.

Motor Neurone Disease Association

Given anonymously

Motor Neurone Disease Association

In tribute from all of Brian's friends and colleagues at the Lloyd's Register Foundation.

The Lloyd's Register Foundation

Motor Neurone Disease Association

We have many fond memories of Brian and send our love and condolences to his family at this sad time.

Dee & Bob Charnley and family

Motor Neurone Disease Association

Triland Metals is deeply saddened to hear of Sir Brian’s passing. We would like to pass on our sincere condolences to his family at this difficult time. Sir Brian was a great friend of many at Triland and will be greatly missed.

Triland Metals Limited

Motor Neurone Disease Association

Brian was the kindest of colleagues and friends. He will be so sorely missed.

Motor Neurone Disease Association

Given anonymously

Motor Neurone Disease Association

So very sorry to learn of your loss. Brian was a great friend and colleague to many people and it was a joy to work with him in Brussels. Hoping that your happy memories are of comfort to you all now and in the future.

Motor Neurone Disease Association

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Motor Neurone Disease Association

Motor Neurone Disease Association

Charlotte and I are very sad we didn’t know Brian( and Penny!) better and earlier

Charlotte and Dennis Stevenson

Motor Neurone Disease Association

I knew Brian for many years but most recently as a mentor for me and many others. I will miss his sage advice and genuine warmth and I was so sad to her of his passing to this terrible disease

Motor Neurone Disease Association

You live on in the hearts and minds of the loving family you left behind.

Motor Neurone Disease Association

Kind thoughts and best wishes for the whole family from Natasha, Giles and family xxx

Natasha & Giles Yeates

Motor Neurone Disease Association

It was a pleasure and a privilege to work with Brian. He was wise, kind and supportive. He always had time for people - including when I was a young fast streamer and he was head of the European Secretariat and later to offer career advice after he had left the civil service. The best Permanent Secretary I worked for and a wonderful person.

Motor Neurone Disease Association

In memory of one of the most talented, generous and kind civil servants of his generation. Brian, you will always be remembered for your impact on the world, and so many people you mentored.

Jitinder Kohli and Shrupti Shah

Motor Neurone Disease Association

A most kind and wise boss of whom I have fond memories.

Motor Neurone Disease Association

We were deeply saddened by Brian's death. Motor Neurone disease is such a cruel disease and we are delighted to be given the opportunity to make a donation to MND

Jane and Tony Sprake

Motor Neurone Disease Association

May Brian Rest In Peace +

Motor Neurone Disease Association

Given anonymously

Motor Neurone Disease Association

Brian brought me into the Department for Business when he was its Permanent Secretary. He was an exceptional civil servant, setting a perfect example for all, an outstanding leader, and always engaging & amusing company. So sad to hear of his passing.

Motor Neurone Disease Association

Our former Chairman, Brian, is fondly remembered by all of us at Water UK and his years of service were very much appreciated. Our deepest sympathies go to all the family.

Motor Neurone Disease Association

It was a privilege and an honour to have had the opportunity of knowing and working with Brian. He was always a very kind, considerate and caring man to everyone he met and was the epitomy of humanity and true public service. I give my condolences to his family

David Waller (Defra)

Motor Neurone Disease Association

Everyone at the LME Group and HKEX would like to send their sincere condolences to Penny and family. Sir Brian was a wonderful leader and friend to many and he will be sadly missed.

Hayley Nunn on behalf of the LME Group and HKEX

Motor Neurone Disease Association

In memory of a good friend - taken too soon - by a terrible disease. Brian will be greatly missed.

Motor Neurone Disease Association

In memory of a great Permanent Secretary.

Motor Neurone Disease Association

In memory of Sir Brian Bender, a colleague at FRC. I much admired and appreciated his charm, intelligence and humour.

Given anonymously

Motor Neurone Disease Association

Given anonymously

Motor Neurone Disease Association

It was lovely working for a Permanent Secretary who talked to and listened to junior staff.

Given anonymously

Motor Neurone Disease Association

With much love...

Motor Neurone Disease Association

Brian was an inspirational leader, mentor and friend. I will always remember his kindness and wisdom, as well as his twinkling humour.

Motor Neurone Disease Association

A great colleague whom I shall miss enormously as will many others.

Motor Neurone Disease Association

Very sorry to hear this sad news: I will keep fond memories of Brian's cheerful attitude, his love of travel, especially Chile

Motor Neurone Disease Association

Brian brought dignity and compassion to the LME. He will be missed by all those who had the honour of working with him.

Michael Overlander

Motor Neurone Disease Association

Mark C ED&F MAN

Motor Neurone Disease Association

In loving memory of Brian a dear friend for many years.

Motor Neurone Disease Association

In memory of a man I knew and respected for nearly forty years. A kind, thoroughly decent man; thoughtful and supportive to everyone who worked with him.

David Andrews (a DTI colleague)

Motor Neurone Disease Association

Sylvia and Michael Jay

Motor Neurone Disease Association

So very saddened by the news. Brian was the best boss ever and a great and generous person . All my thoughts with you all

Motor Neurone Disease Association

We all at European Policy Forum have wonderful memories of Brian's knowledge and expertise given so generously and his kindness and friendliness.

Motor Neurone Disease Association

Saddened to hear the news, I have happy memories of working in Brian's office at Defra for a short while as a lowly admin officer. He was a very pleasant man to work for; impressive without being intimidating and with just the right sprinkling of humour. He was well-liked and respected by all the other staff I knew. Sympathies to his family.

Motor Neurone Disease Association

We celebrate Brian's courage.

Jonathan and Amanda

Motor Neurone Disease Association

In fond memory of a much admired and liked colleague who gave so much encouragement and help to all with whom he worked and who achieved so much himself.

Motor Neurone Disease Association

Motor Neurone Disease Association

In memory of Brian, a kind and thoughtful colleague

Motor Neurone Disease Association

I am so grateful for the support Brian gave me, and his wisdom and kindness.

Peter Schofield

Motor Neurone Disease Association

Rest in Peace, Brian

Katharine & Vivian